Advice wanted :)

GillyMammy · #1 10-02-2009, 04:12 PM

Hi guys - I've got a 14 month old Daughter who was born at 29weeks but has grown into such a strong minded, bloody-willed little angel!

I'm having trouble when it comes to eating. She has taken to putting her fingers into her mouth and making herself gag - and occasionally vomit, while eating. I've tried holding down her hands, but this makes he cry and gag, I've tried giving her something to hold, but she uses her free hand or throws it away, and I've also tried feeding her soups to reduce the amount of time the food in her mouth but she still does it. She does it while she's drinking too.

Does anybody have any suggestions on what it might be, or ways to stop her from doing this? Any help would be gratefully recieved!

Desperately, Gillian

stacy_elise · #2 10-02-2009, 04:16 PM

hiya hun,
ive never actually heard of kids doin this, and i think uve probably tried the best thing of givin her something to occupy herself, and if thats not workin, i honestly cant think of much else, except tie her hands up, which u clearly cant do lol.
what about some sort of gloves, i know its awkward with food and shes old enough 2 take them off, but its the only thing i can think.

hope it gets sorted soon hun, can only imagine how annoying this must b for you. x x x

organicrainbow · #3 10-02-2009, 06:01 PM

have you had her tonsils looked at? She may have discomfort while swallowing. It maybe like my daughter.... she had enlarged tonsils.

CoNFuSeD24 · #4 10-02-2009, 11:07 PM

Hiya,
I have a 14 month old daughter who sometimes puts her hands in her mouth and sometimes she makes herself vomit too because she shoves her hands in so far back. I have tried dummy's, teethers giving her extra snacks thinking she might be hungry thats why she shoving her hands in her mouth but she still does it. I think it might just be down to teething pains. Ya cant tie her hands behind her back so ya just gotta deal with it and hopefuly she will grow out of it. Iv had Mileena do it when we are out and when ya look at her in the pram... sick everywhere. Just one those things. We just give her a dummy which does stop it alot... but in saying that Mileena doesnt really say alot for her age.

bodyshopmummy · #5 10-29-2009, 05:51 PM

I really feel for you, my 2 year old did that too, I had to just try my hardest not to react, even a little bit. Just go on like you don't notice. If she vomits then just clean it up calmly because as far as I can guess there are only two reasons she would be doing this - one is for attention and the other because she's uncomfortable. And neither will be fixed by getting worked up over it - sounds easy huh!!!
A food "expert" on telly said it was an absolute sin to put a child in front of the telly for meal times but it helped distract Ruth. I owe a lot to Balamory!

CoNFuSeD24 · #6 10-29-2009, 11:00 PM

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Originally Posted by bodyshopmummy

I really feel for you, my 2 year old did that too, I had to just try my hardest not to react, even a little bit. Just go on like you don't notice. If she vomits then just clean it up calmly because as far as I can guess there are only two reasons she would be doing this - one is for attention and the other because she's uncomfortable. And neither will be fixed by getting worked up over it - sounds easy huh!!!
A food "expert" on telly said it was an absolute sin to put a child in front of the telly for meal times but it helped distract Ruth. I owe a lot to Balamory!

Ohhh well I sin 3 times a day then with Mileena. What are they ment to do while they are eatting? I mean other then eat of coruse...

LittleUrchins · #7 11-01-2009, 07:20 PM

I also have a daughter who was born just under 29 weeks and she has some behavioural problems, I looked on the internet and this is a problem that can occur with premature and very low birth weight babies (Emma was 2lb 1oz)
I would advise also to just ignore her and clean it up and carry on as usual as by reacting it creates attention.
However this was never enough for my little angel. She has a tendancy to have Paddys shouting and screaming, I ignored her and she then started to throw things around such as toys and then furniture, I still ignored her and then she started hitting and throwing things at her sister, this is could not ignore and would react. I took some advice and was told that by ignoring her it was like telling her that it was okay to scream and shout and even throw furniture so I should nip it in the bud before it started.
Emma hated being on her own in her room being ignored so as soon as she started I would take her upstairs without talking and put her in her room and leave her their until she calmed down.
Once calm she was allowed back down and I would carry on as if the incident did not happen.
As she had paddys several times a day, by the end of the 1st day she was aready starting to calm down much sooner than the previous time.
It worked a treat and just the threat of going to her room stops it now.
I hope this helps I know it is not the same situation the principle behind it is the same.
Michelle

stacy_elise · #8 11-01-2009, 08:43 PM

i was also told gnoring children is not the way 2 go about it, but then also, putting a child in a bedroom as punishment is bad aswell, coz a bedroom is supposed 2 b known as a safe relaxing space not somewhere u get sent wen naughty, easier sed than done i know lol. because the child can then suffer from sleep deprivation etc because they dont wanna b in the bedroom.

i think different things work for differen people tho, i hate all these, well this is right this is wrong, rubbish, u gotta find what works best for you and ure child. and i do put elise in her room and also ignore her, it all depends what she has been doing 2 b punished. x

Charlie_x · #9 11-01-2009, 08:52 PM

alfie goes in his room when he proper stresses me out but i never stick him in his cot when hes been naughty cause i want him to know it for just sleeping and not when hes doing my head in! lol

LittleUrchins · #10 11-02-2009, 09:00 AM

Hi
I never put her in her cot or bed just in her room, and it hasn't made a difference to her bedroom routine, she loves her bedroom still and when annoyed or ready to paddy she will now take herself up to her room for some time out so it has become a quiet space for her as well.
I think that at a certain age the child can tell the difference between going to their room for being naughty and going to bed. as the method of getting them there and the atmosphere is totally different.
My daugther didn't walk until she was eighteen months so she was a little older but saying that at the age of three she was 18 months behind in her general understanding.
There is no definite answer just see what works best with you child and do not try something just because someone says its bad for them as it may not have any affect on them and may just work.
this method does not work at all for my second child, but then she does not have the same behavioural tendancies.
Michelle