affairs

pinkydinkydo · #1 03-15-2007, 04:27 PM

in 2000 i found out that my mum had a affair with mum dads best mate..my dad caught them in the act so my dad took himself off to focas yes i said focas if it was me i would have slapped them both up right so when i got told i just thought it was a fling turned out she was seeing him for over 30 years!! yes 30 years.. i was gutted not at the fact that she was sleeping with someone else but the fact that she had hurt my dad so she got a thump off me which i know was bad but so was what she did. anyway to cut a long story short mum & dad are still together & just had their ruby wedding anniversary & are much better for it. personally i would have booted my other half out the door if that was daz but each to thier own so i was wondering what ppl thought of affairs & if anyone has gone through either having one or other halfs have had one. personally i hate it has i think that if your not happy at home you should try to work it out or get out of the relationship & not to hurt the other person.

rileysmam · #2 03-15-2007, 05:12 PM

i agree i would never cheat on gareth and if he had cheated on me id kill him id rip his bollocks off them chuck him out lol i dont c a piont its just more hurt and lies

pinkydinkydo · #3 03-15-2007, 05:15 PM

i could never cheat on daz hes my main man god forbid if he did though!!!! he already had a swift warning from my big brothers when we got together that if he hurt me he was a dead man walking!!! (brothers don't ya just love em!!)

mum_of_abigail · #4 03-15-2007, 05:17 PM

I would never cheat on my steve and it makes me feel physically sick to think that he could ever do it to me. I could never forgive such a thing and I think you'd have to be extremely strong to be able to. At the same time I don't think a relationship could ever be the same after an affair as there would always be doubts about the partner who had the affair.

Em xx

pinkfizz77 · #5 03-15-2007, 05:28 PM

i have had affairs
had affairs when i was married and was also the 'other woman'
i bitterly regret the pain i caused my husband, he always forgave me but i cant believe i risked it all for what was basically just sex
as for being the other woman, i fell in love with an unhappily married man, subsequently had two kids by him n he is still with her (loooong complicated story)
i have also been cheated on n it hurt like hell
would never cheat again, i have seen both sides of the story and someone always gets hurt, it just isnt worth it
cant explain why i did it, not sure i know myself but i know i have changed (yes someone can change if they really want to) and i know i will never have an affair again, if i arent happy there are other ways of dealing with it.
now happily engaged to a great man and know that i would f***ing kill him if he did it to to me n if i did it to him hed be straight out the door so it really isnt worth it

c.a.cullum · #6 03-16-2007, 01:39 PM

ohhh. affairs!!! horrible things... all they cause is pain and heartbreak!!! surely there are other ways of dealing wit things!! i'd neva do it to james... and if i was eva tempted then i'd finish it 1st!!!! or at least i like to think i wud... but then as the saying goes.. never say never!!! if he done it to me.. i like to think i'd b strong enough to cause him lots of pain.. but knoing me i'd just breakdown and cry!!!

i kno people who have gone wit married men and i think they r selfish and have obviously got no respect for themselves... coz those married men r all the same... altho.. some happy endings can occur... so if u havent noticed i like to think i have strong views on the subject... but really u cant judge others coz u dont kno wots happening at the time in question!!!

shell · #7 03-16-2007, 03:22 PM

I could never cheat on my hubby & i don't think he would on me. He always says why go out for corned beef when you have steak at home. If he did ever cheat though he'd be out. When the trust is broken in a relationship i don't think you can go back to how you were. Having said that its just my opinion & don't want to cause offence to anyone

c.a.cullum · #8 03-17-2007, 01:43 PM

i totally agree wit u on that one!!! if u aint got trust u aint got a relationship!!!! i like to think me and hubby wud neva cheat on one another.... i'd feel too guilty!!! i dont understand how people can live wit that on their conscience day in day out!!! also i am the worst liar in the world.... i cant lie to save my life!!!!

rileysmam · #9 03-17-2007, 06:29 PM

i would have floored my sister that is really bad i dunno why any1 would want to hurt their sister like that i have 2 and would never do anything like that to hurt them.

c.a.cullum · #10 03-19-2007, 11:56 AM

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Originally Posted by gillgoggs

One of my friends hubby cheated on her with her sister!! it had been goin on for few months, when my friend found out she didnt tell anyone not even her sisters fiance or any of her family, just kept to herself, used to say why hurt other people, she had a hard time forgiving him n her, her relationship with her sister has never been the same since, this was 3 years ago and still no one else knows only a couple of close friends now, she had a break down earlier this year, i think its because she didnt deal with it head-on, just brushed it under the carpet, bottled it all up, then it just came exploding all out... she kicked him out ( i know 3 yrs too late!) which was a shock to him i think

, and decided to go to councelling... they are back together now and working things out, ive never forgave her sister, wanna smack her face in everytime i see her

her sisters married now... lets hope it dont happen to her!!!

my goodness thats awful!!! how can some1 do that to their own sisters!!!! i cant believe she bottled it up for that long... so glad shes dealt wit it now tho and hopefully she can now move forward wit her life!!!