Should i do it???

manicmummy · #1 03-05-2007, 10:25 PM

Hi
I have been asked to appear in a national newspaper with my story. I am a little unsure about whether to do it as it is a very sensitive subject they want me to discuss. i would have to be me and be photographed as well, so will be recognised.

I am not ashamed of what happened and it is somethin g that needs to be highlighted in this world currently , but i am worried that my eldest son who is 12 will cop it if friends see it ect. i have discussed it with my husband and he is not 100% sure, although he says it is something that people need to be made aware of, but i am afraid of hurting my son as he does not yet know the truth.

What do you think i should do?
Thanks for your help

love
Karenxx

minimummi · #2 03-05-2007, 11:44 PM

Hi,

I'm going to be in national paper next week regarding having caesarean sections and also discussing poor quality of care thru NHS and post-natal depression. With pic too.

My children are small, so it won't affect them though.

becky · #3 03-06-2007, 09:40 AM

Hi minimummi do you know what day and what paper you will appear in? i would like to have a nose!

manicmummy........ i really think it depends on what the situation is about,i mean some things are quite general and happen alot, so going in the paper for something like that wouldent really be anything to worry about! If your situatioin is quite bad, then i think you would need to have a good think about it. but without knowing what the situation is, i carnt really say much more, sorry. I wish you the best of luck.

minimummi · #4 03-06-2007, 10:00 AM

Hi Becky,

It's the Daily Express. Not sure if it will be this week as they've not taken pictures yet!! Bit nervous though, you know what these newspapers are like. I don't fancy them twisting my words!!

It's just a kind of rebuff on people who are having c-sections just for the sake of it. It's a bit of a warning, you know, think carefully about having major surgery before you actually do it!!!

becky · #5 03-06-2007, 10:44 AM

Hi minimummi i c, you will have to give me a shout when ur in it

i have had 2 c-sections so i would find the story quite interesting!

c-section surgeory is not nice, and i feel if its not needed 100% then it shouldent be done. There are so many risks when haveing these ops, like blood clots in the legs, being paralised, or even dieing due to the operators. When i had my second c-section, i had 2 young coloured ladys doing it, and they were hacking at me like a piece of meat. Laughing at each other and haveing a converstation between themselves whilst i lay there cut open! To be honst i really dont think one of the operators quite knew wot she was doing, as she left me bleeding out of my hand ( i had to have 2 drips fitted as im diabetic) for ages, then she was all confussed about why my machine kept bleeping. i said to hubby " shes like a traniee, she hasent a clue".... then i felt like passing out in the operating room, i see the same lady about to cut me open. i felt like crying.
Touch wood, ive healed good and not had any problems, but i tell ya, she scared the life out of me!

c.a.cullum · #6 03-06-2007, 02:20 PM

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Originally Posted by manicmummy

Hi
I have been asked to appear in a national newspaper with my story. I am a little unsure about whether to do it as it is a very sensitive subject they want me to discuss. i would have to be me and be photographed as well, so will be recognised.

I am not ashamed of what happened and it is somethin g that needs to be highlighted in this world currently , but i am worried that my eldest son who is 12 will cop it if friends see it ect. i have discussed it with my husband and he is not 100% sure, although he says it is something that people need to be made aware of, but i am afraid of hurting my son as he does not yet know the truth.

What do you think i should do?
Thanks for your help

love
Karenxx

talk to ur son first!!! he is now at an age where im sure he is old enough to understand... tell him wot u will say.. as i think he does have a rite to hear it from u and not read it in the paper... once u have done that then u can all make a decision as a family!!

i hope it all works out for the best!! :smile:

manicmummy · #7 03-06-2007, 03:37 PM

Thank you for your support and yes you are right i should talk to my son first if i am going to do it! Troubl is i onl have tonite to decide as a family as i have to let the paper know tomorrow whether i will give my story!

I dont mind saying what it is about, basically i had a termination four years ago that affected me both emotionally and physically badly. I did not want to do it and deeply regret it. I had to have counselling to get through it all. thankfully i am now ok and i now help women who are trying to make very difficult decisions by given them informed facts. I was not told what to expect afterwards, i was not told how hurt i would feel etc or what stage of development my baby was at. There was lots i did not know and i also had a hemmorage five weeks afterwards.

The paper concerned is looking at why women have terminations and the diffrent affects it can have on them. They are keen to run my story becuase i was married when i had mine and want to know how it affected my relationship with my husband.

I will let you know what i decide to do as they will want photographs of me as well- there will be no chance to disguise myself! I agreed to do a similar story for another national paper three years ago when i was pregnant with my youngest but i was in disguise so it was not an issue. Dont get m wrong i dont want to hide away and i freely talk to people who want to know things about waht happened because it is a controversal subject that produces interest. peopel dont realise always what people feel like afterwards. I am just worried in case it causes a backlash from people and my son gets hurt.

Take care all good luck with your shoot minimummy

Love

karenxx

minimummi · #8 03-06-2007, 03:40 PM

Is it with Morag Turner by any chance? Tell them you won't do it with pictures, if you don't feel comfortable with it.

becky · #9 03-06-2007, 04:11 PM

i feel if your comfy with doing it, then maybe you should? my mate had a termination when she was only young and it shook her up quite bad, i know theres days she still thinks about it as the baby that would of been...would be quite old now, its sad really, but i dont think people know what to expect from a abortion, and how they will feel after!

manicmummy · #10 03-06-2007, 04:16 PM

dont know who will do the shoot, last time they came to me because i was heavily pregnant and everyone who gave their story came to my house!! There wer five women, four make-up artists and one photographer who were all very professional.

The reason as well i am worried about is is that it is for a tabloid, i dont want my story mis-interpreted- i want it told as as it is.

Thanks for your help

Love
Karenx