Very confused about relationship

[littlemiss]

i'm so confused about my relationship with my partner. I do love him but we got married and had kids so quickly and didn't really have time to sort out living arrangements. Not sure how to explain this properly but everything was fine when i was working as i had my own money but since having our 2nd child and i'm now a sahm things haven't changed regarding money. He gives me no money and tells me i should be grateful cause he pays all the bills. The thing is i thought this was normal until my family commented on how strange they thought it was and how worried they are about me. Also he's changed towards my sis and brother, he's constantly putting them down to me and ignoring them or making snide comments. I feel so alone and feel he's pushing my family away from me. We went away to Butlins and i was so ashamed by his attitude towards them, i tried to pretend nothing was happening and was so stressed trying to keep the peace. The problem is my dad is a very controlling,mentally abusive man and i promised myself i would never marry a man like this. I didn't think my husband was like him at all, but everyone keeps comparing them and i'm terrified i'll end up like my mum who never got out of her situation. Maybe this sounds really stupid and i'm sure other people have much worse problems, i wud really appreciate some advice.

[chantellesmummy]

i am sorry but he is doing wrong u need to tell him how u r fealing, and i would get out of the relationship caz everything that u r fealing the kids will pick up on as well

[CoNFuSeD24]

I am sorry to hear you are having a hard time and arent happy. I think you should speak to him as well and talk about how you are feeling and that you dont like him putting down your sister and brother and any other family member he puts down. I am sure he wouldnt like it if you put down his family and said mean things about them and he shouldnt do it to you. Weather he likes your family or not is his choice but he should treat them with respect because they are your family... just like if you didnt like his family you would still treat them with respect because its his family and you love him. I dont know if that helps or not. Let us know how you are getting on. mwahs ***

[c.a.cullum]

he's being completely out of order.. and u shudnt b made to feel guilty just coz u r a sahm.. u r lookin after his and ur family and home!!! he shudnt b making u feel grateful that he's paying the bills coz thats his preogative as father and husband.. just as it wud b if tables were turned!!!


u have to talk to him and he needs to wake up and grow up!!! ur family shud not b comparing him to ur father as this is not fair on u!! sit him down and have a good talk!! if u dont feel this help then u may have to b strong!!

i hope u get this sorted and soon!! take care!!

[ILoveToCount,Ahh,Ahh!]

oh my god, are you ok

im so sorry that you're feeling like this and i deff think that you need to air your feelings with him or you'll start to hate him.

*** you know where i am if you need to talk hun