bullies!

[Debbielou]

Melissa came home last wk saying a girl had bit her, but I didn't believe her as she lives in a fantasy world. Well last night she wet the bed and she's never done that since she was dry. So I asked the teacher if all was well and what I found out has upset me so much, I'm in tears. Apparantly she was bitten, a little girl is picking on her and the teacher is making notes so they don't go up into the same class. But now the teacher has to go in to the toilets with the children, even though she's not allowed just to make sure this little girl is not picking on melissa. She calls her a baby and is so nasty to her! Melissa is so gentle and sweet and wouldn't hurt anyone. The thougth of my little baby been so scared she wet the bed upsets me so much! The teacher said that if Melissa were to hit her once to show her she wasn't scared she would turn a blind eye cos this little girl needs to be taught a lesson. The worst thing is Melissas only been at school 3 wks and they're only 4yrs old! Her mother should be ashamed of herself having a 4yr old whos a bully! If I see her mum when I pick Melissa up I'll end up saying something! I don't want to send Melisssa to school now.

[pinkydinkydo]

all kids are like this but i'm surprised that they nursery didn't tell you of this before hand thats naughy. i know how you feel i would be fuming & want ti bite the head off the mother but saying that benjamin has been told off at nursery a few times for being too boistrious but i don't know where the hell he gets off!!! i would speak to the mother of this child make her aware & that it is causing problems for you all! good luck chick

[Debbielou]

I'm just so upset, I'm supposed to protect her, but by taking her to school I feel I'm handing her to the bullies!

[rileysmam]

hun have a word with her mother ive never known a four year old bully she must have seen other ppl do it if u know what i mean its awfull if it were my son doing it he would get a right telling and if it were happeneing to me id def speak to her mum your poor melissa what a thing to go through at that age i hope u get it sorted hun give her a hug from me x

[pinkydinkydo]

its simple if nothing gets done do what i would do tell the nursery if nothing is sorted then you report them to the education department & police & throw in for good measures that you will take them to the papers if needs be!

Omg Debbie, how distressing for you! I can't beleive it and you've upset me too! I can't beleive the school didn't say anyhting to you about all this - that's disgusting, they are supposed to tell you even if they suspect it let alone all ready dealing with it! I too would have to say something to the mother - if she doesn't know it's happening, she won't be able to deal with it. Good luck hun, big huggle from me for you and melissa and keep us posted.

[sassysan]

oh debbie im so sorry, if you dont want to send her to that nursery is there any more in your area you can try?

[shell]

Omg Debbie tha's terrible. I agree with all that has been said already. The nursery should have told you straight away & the Melissa hitting her back won't solve it. You need to have a chat with the girls mum or ask for teachers to arrange for the three of you to sit & discuss what is happening & where to go next. Don't be put off sending melissa to school just reassure her as much as you can. It's in no way your fault. Im sending all the love hugs & kisses in the world to you both. I hope that you get the problem sorted. I would also request to meet with the headteacher if you still feel let down

[pinkydinkydo]

well talking of this subject i to picked benjamin up from nursery today for them to tell me that his best mate jake was quite aggressive with him so & went to bite him on the face so i told my friend that she should say to him thats its wrong & take away something he likes she was gutted that jake could do this to ben but like i said its a stage that he's going through & that also she has just had a new baby!!! anyway i was very chuffed with benjamin as he didn't retalite back he walked away!

Awww bless him he's a good boy! Like I said before though, if the mum knows about it she can deal with it, good that she listened to you and didn't immediately get her back up as some parents can be like that too.