In Laws.

[clare bear]

sorry about this ladies but i just need to get it outta me head.
as most of you know we lost ants dad on the 30th of jan.it was suddenly. well we said goodbye to him on the 14th of feb.which went aswell as it could. well since then none of ants family have been in touch with him. not even his youngest bro who he was close to. the youngest bro who ant helped work on there dad to try and bring him back. hes tried to tell his mum that he needs to talk to her but she dont wanna know. al the family have stopped talking to me.that dont bother me but i hurt so much for ant,as it coz of me they dont want to know him. mant times ive thought of calling it a day so ant can have his family back. but hey i sat and thought if they stop talking to ant just coz of me then they dont think much of him. im just so fed up of it all.why do familys have to take it out on others, just coz they dont like there parteners

[CoNFuSeD24]

Just ignore them. It could be their way of trying to split you both up and dont let them win. If you love Ant and he loves you thats all that matters hun. I understand how you feel coz I have been in the same situation with Lee's family and them not talking to us or coming to see us very offten. But I aint letting them spilt Lee and I up... no way!!! And you shouldnt either. If Ant wanted to be with his family etc etc he would of gone and left ya hun... the fact is he is with you and hasnt... if you understand what I am trying to say. *huggs* Hope it gets sorted for you. xxx

[louisel]

me and my partner are in the same position. none of kennys family talk to him coz of me which is just awful coz he has 5 sisters and 2 brothers and none of them have had anything to do with us for three years. it all started when kenny lost both his parents. it just shows you that the parents hold the fasmily together.

[clare bear]

tell me about it chic. dont get me wrong they have never really been close to ant,but when we lost his dad they all said we will have to stick together,but hey it just dont happen. ive decided now its just ant and me,they will come running when they want our help and it aint gonna be there for um.

[louisel]

just look at it this way there the ones who are missing out, thats what i do. but people can be so horrible. they dont relise when you lose someone you need to stick together and help each other get through it. coz after all they are all going through the same thing

[clare bear]

to true chic. the only thing that worries me is that ant has a mental problem. the family all know this but just shrug it off. not talking to ant isnt helping him at all. i know they are all going through the same thing but the rest of the family are all sticking together,but pushing ant away. it cant be easy for him,he doesnt even talk about his dad to me now.i try but he changes the subject. i heard him talking to my uncle ant said his family will only realise how much they are hurting him when he does something stupid. i just dont want it to get that far.

[louisel]

iam so sorry to hear that. you must be so worried about him. why is it that men find it hard opening up and talking. his family needs to no how he is feeling and what they are doing to him. is there any of his family members you can approach and just tell them how ant feels. surely they will see sence.

[clare bear]

hes told his yunger brother and his mum but they just say oh right. it was ant and his younger brother that worked to tey and save there dad,so i thought they would have got quite close but no chance. as long as ant is with me they aint gonna give a damn. weve been together 13 years next month and i tell ya they aint gonna split us up no way.

[louisel]

why have they got such a big problem with you? i no kennys family hate me coz, kenny was with someone when we first got toghether and he also already had son to this women. so i was the big baddie spilting up the family. but 13 years is along time they should just get over it.

[clare bear]

they dont like me coz i say what i think. if they upset me i let them know. the other daughter in laws are up ants mums ass. she sez jump they ask how high. i dont even do that with my own mum so i aint gonna start it with ants mum.