partners who can't leave work at work

[wendy3675]

my other half is an architect so i do appreciate that he does need to bring work home from time to time esp when he's on a tight deadline.
but he does it all the time!

when he hasn't got deadlines he offers to do stuff like set up training manuals & standard detail booklets, its like he doesn't want to spend time with the kids. he leaves for work at 6.30am & gets in at 6pm so he really doesn't see much of them during the week & at the weekends he still brings work home & if i say anything to him about it or suggest doing something as a family then 'i don't understand his job' arghhhh

[emzibabes]

i no how u feel luv, spending time wiv ya family is important but in his eyes the work cums first, which i no shouldn't but it does y dont u tell him or show him what he's missing make him understand that family should have the top marker in life, but support him as well which i no u wud do, tell him to put as side sum time for family, my lad cums in some times at 6 or later depending on the work he has on as he;s a gas fitter, but he always trys to put time aside for erin and i,. x

[becky]

awwww that must be terrible, huby dont work so i dont have that problem, well he does work, but we own our own business and run it from home!! makes ya wonder why he carnt leave it at work hun, prehaps he just loves it so much hehe

xx

[wendy3675]

thanks for the advice - the thing is i haven't got a problem with him bringing work home & i have suggested that just one day a week (sat) he should put aside for family stuff but he still moans

[mamabear]

My husbands a primary school teacher and he brings loads of marking home with him. He does it all evening the marking and all his planning. Then he falls asleep it's really annoying. pullinghair

[Ann-Marie]

Originally Posted by wendy3675

my other half is an architect so i do appreciate that he does need to bring work home from time to time esp when he's on a tight deadline.
but he does it all the time!

when he hasn't got deadlines he offers to do stuff like set up training manuals & standard detail booklets, its like he doesn't want to spend time with the kids. he leaves for work at 6.30am & gets in at 6pm so he really doesn't see much of them during the week & at the weekends he still brings work home & if i say anything to him about it or suggest doing something as a family then 'i don't understand his job' arghhhh

That sounds exactly like my dad he works in Manchester as a Manager of a Pipeline Company he gets up at 5:00am travels down to Manchester from Hartlepool gets home about 10:30pm on the Monday night and stays down Manchester for the rest of the week comes home on the Friday night at about 10:30pm still bringing work home so really not having the weekend off then does the same again on the following week.
His always worked on the Oil-Rigs when we were younger so we didn't really get to see him. He needs to start putting work to one side and living his life now :smile: