women

[LMChatterbox]

i was 19 when i had my first pregnancy, i was educated, in a serious relationship and very happy. Oliver came along when i was 22 i gave up a promotion at work to be a manager, and left to look after him. yes i am on benefits, and i'm actually very proud of the fact that i stay at home and look after my children myself. if child care wasnt so expensive where i am and wages so low then yes i probably would go to work part time, but i'd still receive tax credits which is still a benefit. so i feel that i am better off at home where my children need me. what good would i be to my children doing a 60 hour week to earn just enough money to pay the bills and child minders. we wouldn't even be able to eat. we would never see each other, and strangers would see all teir developing and i would miss out. i'm 28 not 58 there's enough time for me to go out and earn my pension, and basically that all any of us really go to work for.

[clare bear]

my cousin has put both of her kids in child care from an early age. her 1st was in child care when he was 2 weeks old. she didnt c him from 8 am till 6 pm (sad) she didnt hear his first word, c him take his 1st step or nothin. then she went and had another child (why) that child was also in child care form 2 weeks old.she only works in an office for god sake. sorry ladies but i think its totally sad. why have kids if ur not gonna spend time with them !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[LMChatterbox]

thoroughly agree babe. i had my children to bring them up the way that i see as being right, to trust their instincts, have values socially and morally (even if i have none). we are after all bringing up the children of this planets future, the parents of our grandchildren. do we want the future generations to believe that the first lesson in a childs life is that parents are the ones loving and bringing them up in a supportive family environment? or is it to be that parents are the ones that lavish us with gifts because they feel guilt at spending all their time at work so turn us into greedy spoilt little brats?
i'm not saying that is what is happening to every childe in child care but in the majority of the cases i have witnessed for myself this is true.

[becky]

what you just said clare is really sad! it touched my heart!! i think its terrible to have babies then just give them up!! theres some people who would be a excellent mother, and would do anything to have children, but they carnt have any, and no treatment will work for them either. its terrible, brought a tear to my eyes now!!

[jayk84]

i'm due to go back to work in a month, i'm dreading it. but its something i have to do if my hubby and i are ever going to be able to buy our own house. But i am studying at the moment so i can eventually do my work from home. I resent paying £800 on sending my boy to nursery. its not right. i want to be there for all his "firsts" but unfortunately i can't always have what i want

[clare bear]

i can not even speak to my cousin shes such a bitch all i want to do is slap her. theres little old me who would love a child to bits , but carnt have any. then theres her the selfish cow who dont want to be aroud her 2 kids.this 1 day my dad spoke to the eldest who was 2 at the time and said wheres mummy, jo (my cousin) bit his head off and said its jo or mum not mummy. my dad went ape shit and said for god sake hes a child. the child is 4 now and he was actually sat down and told why my nan had passed away and where she was going. and i dont mean he was told she was gonna be that brightest star in the sky either.

[LMChatterbox]

jayk84 thats great that youre going back to work for an actual purpose, and that you are doing studies so you can work from home. i would love to be able to wotk from home too but i dont think a restaurant in my lounge is such a good idea, so back to the drawing board.
i have loved being able to see all of their firsts, its been great. i wanted to stay at home with them, but in another way i had no choice as i wouldve had to do 2 full time jobs just to pay the bills, and i couldnt do catering due to the hours so i gave it all up.


i know a woman who had her first child just before i had oliver and she couldnt stand the thought of staying at home with in her words a brat so she shoved her daughter in nursery and went back to waork part time. but the daughter was in nursery for those houre plus a whole day a week so the mother didnt have to put up with her, then the rest of the time was at her grandparents. she recently had another baby and that one too went straight to nursery at 6 weeks old so she could go back to work. with that one her words were ' oh i want another baby then i can shove that one in nursery and first one (so i dont mention names) will be at school by then so i can do full time'. how bad is that?

but it gets better. there's another woman i know that had her first child, was a single parent, got with a new bloke moved in together claiming benefits although he worked full time. decided to have another one so the eldest went to live with her grandparents just for the end of the pregnancy as this woman got uncomforrtable driving to and from school every day (understandable of course). well the baby is 4 years old now and the eldest still lives with the grandparents, and the mother and her partner are planning their wedding for next year and ttc.

[emmal20]

well i dnt agree with judgements but i think if any girl gets pregnant then they should cover more with clothes

[** NIKITA TEO**]

Well i agree about the abuse violence from men, i was beaten by my ex, and i would never wish it upon anyone not even my worse enemy.
Racial abuse is completely wrong, and i do not actually see it improving, it seems too be worsening.

And as for the teenager showing of their bumps, well i do actually know where you are coming from, if a see a teenager pregnant, i do not judge. But when i see them, out and about 'hanging' with there mates, belly out like its a way of getting attention.
Bringing unnecessary attention too it, that's annoying. A pregnant belly is a beautiful thing, life. But too some teenagers and adults (adults can be just as bad, Britney spears par example!) treat is not as such, and think it makes them look big, clever what ever. By dressing in such a way that others are shocked at it, is wrong

I had my eldest when i was a teenager, and i never once got my bump out on show, in-fact i used to cover it, not too hide it for any reason. Just i hated how i looked i was young and extremely body conscious.

Nikita

[♥ Kerry ♥]

i so agree, i remember when i was in year 10 and the girls in year 11 wud come in to sit there gcses and u cud see girls with shorts on and a short top showing their stomach and they were like 8 months pregnant with a massive bump. it looked so slaggish and wrong.