lost both parents about 3 yrs ago
Hi all,
i lost both my parents 3 yrs go, due to cancer,dad had bowel cancer and lung cancer.
mum had lung cancer and bone cancer, so both terminal, i was the worst time of my life, as i wacthed both parents go from like 13 stone both of them to about 4 and a half stone in weight, it was horrible, and my dad had this terrible cough and was allways being sick, poor mum couldnt wealk very fair without gaspinbg for oxygen in the end,it was hard as i lived in essex at the time and they lived in kent,they had carers, but they were only ever about 3 times a day,and they needed fulltime care really, so it was between me and my brother, we at the time was was ok, but was allways moaning about my parents, and i used to go over friday satursday and sunday, and when my kids were on 6 weeks holis , id stay for quiete a while there to care for them, my husband wasgr8, bless him as he looked after the kids full time all 3 of them.
but uit got hard, as dad had bowel cancer it wasnt easy changing your dads underclothes and he would get angry and embarassed and sometimes shout at me as he was so ill, and that made my cry,i had to sort the pills out and give him them and also eye drops as he had pressure built up behind his eyes, id get him and mum dressed do there breakfast, and hope dad would keep it down, cook there dinners, and the same at bedtime, empty the commode at times, i didnt mind, but it did drain me, and i used to lay in my old bedroom and just cry as i hear dad coughing,.
there coindition got worse, dad was admitted into maidstone hospice there, where they were gr8 people, really looked after him, but he couldnt drink very well in the end, used like a trainer cup to drink, and he died with mum by his side in a wheelchair at 1.30pm we was all there it was terrible,i dont think ive ever cried so much, poor mum was heartbroken.i still remember her saying goodnight sweetheart.
Then 3 months down the line, we gort rid of alot of the stuff in the house of dads, and other furniture and mum went down hill, my brother looked after here and she died, at 10.30am and it was bad, as my husband lent over her to checfk her she took her last breath,was bad when corriners came and took her in a black sack, was like something of the tv, you dont exspect it to be real.
My father wrote me out of his will and left all the money to my brother, i got nothing and i was hurt, it wasnt the money, it was the principle of the matter, and my brother treated me like shit in the end, beat me and my husband up when we went to discuss the will with him, i havent spokje to him for 3 yrs and never will now.
I miss my mother everyday, but not my dad, feel like hes used me, it was ok when i was looking after him, not why i did it, but you get what i mean, i was hurt, and will never forgive him.
after that my nan died, 2 yrs ago,my mum mother and my grandad died last novemeber my mothers step dad,so to be hinest all my famiily are deceased excep[t my a.....hole brother, im only 40 and lost everyone.
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