domestic violence

[ThatGirl]

Ok so my BFs hit me a few times and gave me a black eye sunday which i still have, i know he's angry right now because he can't see his kids, i don't know what to do. i wrote a poem about how i wanted kids and he found it and said i did it to get to him and crap. i dunno want to do x

[Charlie_x]

if i was you i would not stand to have my bloke hit me even if it was just once and because you wrote a poem at the end of the day there is no excuse for what he has done, no man should never hit a women honestly hun he is not worth it you need to get yourself out of there i know its just easy saying it but this could be the start of something and maybe now he is showing his true colours, you know where all here for you x

[ThatGirl]

thanks hun, i don't feel like my own homes mine any more all my things are stuck in the loft, hes on about us buying a house together. it has to have a garage and three bedrooms well that isn't going to work as his two children need separate rooms so where the kids he promised me going to go and i wont agree with them sharing with his kids, it seems hes trying to replace his kids with the ones i want, and has no intention of us having kids :@ it gets me so angry x

[CoNFuSeD24]

I wouldnt stand for it. No man should hit any woman no matter what and you deserve better. Theres loads of places you could go for help etc to get yourself out of this situation but sometimes love is a stronge thing and stops people/women from leaving.

[Charlie_x]

Originally Posted by ThatGirl

thanks hun, i don't feel like my own homes mine any more all my things are stuck in the loft, hes on about us buying a house together. it has to have a garage and three bedrooms well that isn't going to work as his two children need separate rooms so where the kids he promised me going to go and i wont agree with them sharing with his kids, it seems hes trying to replace his kids with the ones i want, and has no intention of us having kids :@ it gets me so angry x

There see you've said it yourself all in one, me personaly i would get the locks changed on him and have all of his stuff out the front, its your flat not yours and his its in your name etc tell him to bugger off you can find someone who loves you for you and its not fair him trying to dump his kids on you tell him to pack his bags and find someone who is going to treat you better, at the end of the day it only takes 2 to make a baby but there are plenty of women out there who cope on there own!

[ThatGirl]

thanks girls ill be back on monday talk then x

[Lynne]

I agree with the other girls, get out of there. You deserve much better. Remember you are still young and will find someone else in the future who will love you and care for you, you don't need to put up with that. Remember we are always here for a chat x

[rara]

I was a victim of domestic voilence with a previous partner over 12 years ago.

I was like everyone else on here, "if a man ever hit me I would get out of there". Unless it has actually happened to you its difficult to say that.

My bloke beat me black and blue one Christmas Eve after a night out on the drink. He was arrested, but I wouldnt press charges. He was devasted by what he had done (like most of them are) and I fell for all the promises of it never happeneing again and by New Years Eve we were back together.

It only lasted another a year, as like he promised there were never any fists again but the mental abuse started in its place, sometimes this can often be worse.

I can look back now and think "what the hell was I doing"? I would never stand for it again. But at the time you dont feel strong enough.

I am offering my advice to leave now, as it never gets better, even through all the tears and promises. You are so young (as I was ) and have so much more to give yourself.

As hard as it is, dont stay like I did, leave now babe.

Hope this helps a bit.

xx

[emmal20]

i wud leave

[ThatGirl]

thanks for all the advice ladies