Don't know whether to try for 4th baby

[happyhappylady]

How do you decide whether or not to have another baby? i have 2 to my ex and a baby to my new partner. I'm worried that my baby could feel left out when the older 2 see their dad. also because I was previously in an abusive relationsip I've only really enjoyed this baby, and I would like to have another to enjoy as it feels like making up for the miserable time I had after the other 2, and basically I would just like to have another one! problem is my parter is 64(!) (my baby was a surprise!), I am going through a divorce, we're not loaded and having another doesn't seem very practical. I want to have a complete career change after I've completed my family, so if I have another one it needs to be now before I re-train. Should I go with my heart or my head

[Lynne]

I would have a long talk with your partner and see what he thinks. As much as you would love another baby you have to think of whether now is the right time or not, money wise and space wise. Plus, divorce is a hectic time and do you want a baby thrown into the equation too?

Yet, I guess now is the perfect time to have another in a way. Perfect timing with your career, and I guess it's now or never really regarding your partners age. At the end of the day, it is down to you two as a couple. Do what you think is best and follow your instincts which ever decision this may be. xxx

[happyhappylady]

thanks for that. i have talked to my partner a lot, he'd love to have another (he already has 5 grown up kids, 3 grandchildren, 2 step children and our baby!) but says the final decision is down to me as I have to go through all the pain! just not sure what to do

[Lynne]

Your welcome, don't rush into anything and think carefully to make sure you make the right decision. xx

[emmal20]

i think u shud talk to ur partner as ur maybe u want to wait a while gettin divorced can be stressfull it myt be hard to get pregs but gfud luck whatever the descion