whens best to try again???

haylbop · #1 09-14-2009, 05:32 PM

hi all, im just looking for a bit of advice and guidance really if anyone can help id be very grateful! im almost 24 iv been with my boyfriend 7 years this year and we have a gorgeous 5 year old daughter, we've just moved into our own council house i work one day a week and he works full time and our daughter is in school. we've been discussing on and off for about a year about having another child and decided to go for it last christmas but then his sister announced she would be gettin married and i didnt want to be the size of a whale at the wedding so we said we would hold off until after the wedding, she got married in june of this year and only last month announced she was pregnant, im genuinely delighted for her but cant help feeling do i have to wait now til she has her baby before we start tryin again. i had a terrible birth with my daughter but now feel ready to have another child and feel that if i wait any longer il get cold feet! another factor in our decision is parents reactions which i dread, i dont think his mother would take it very well with his sister being pregnant, it might be too much for her to take on board, and then there's my parents, im an only child and just know that if i bring up the subject of having another child now they wont be impressed and will probably say im being selfish bringing another child into the world and that i havent really thought this through when i know that we have put alot of thought and consideration into it i just dont want the lecture!! im due to have my contraceptive implant out this friday so we can start trying but i would like to hear some peoples views on my situation, just to make sure im doing the right thing!!! thanks for taking the time to read this!!!!

Charlie_x · #2 09-14-2009, 05:45 PM

its not up to anyone else but you and your partner why should you wait off just because his sister is pregnant? it doesnt matter what anyone else's reaction is going to be i say go for hun

and good luck!

haylbop · #3 09-14-2009, 05:48 PM

ah thanks hun your advice means alot to me thank you!!!!

sandra · #4 09-14-2009, 06:23 PM

like charlie said, go for it! if its what u and ur fella want, then do it. im guessin his sister would be pleased, u can swap pregnancy stories as u go along!

as for ur parents giving u a lecture? id politely say "im 24 years old, im already a mum, il do whats best for me"x x

stacy_elise · #5 09-14-2009, 06:26 PM

it has nothing 2 do with an1 else hun, why wud ure parents say ure bein selfish if u dont mind me asking, i see u mentioned that u had bad time with ure last birth, is there a possibiliy it can make u ill, coz i can also see where ure parents are coming from if thats the case.

But at the end of the day, yu are you, so u and ure partner decide, no1 else. x x x

Lynne · #6 09-14-2009, 06:44 PM

I agree with the other girls. Whether you want another baby is down to you and ur partner, not anybody else. If you two have had a proper chat about it and feel like you are ready for another, then go ahead. You shouldn't let anybody else put you off, it's your decision at the end of the day! Good luck! x

haylbop · #7 09-14-2009, 07:10 PM

thank you all for ur kind words and advice it means alot!

CoNFuSeD24 · #8 09-14-2009, 10:04 PM

Like everyone else has said its up to you and your boyfriend and you should both do what makes you happy. Dont worry about what others have to say because honestly these days it doesnt matter what ya say to people... they still never happy. Its non of anyone else's business but yours and your boyfriend. And why would ya be selfish? They the ones being selfish in not being happy for you and supporting you the way they should. I think ya should go for it. If your both ready and wanting the same thing then go for it. Good luck.

pinkzoe · #9 09-20-2009, 03:49 PM

me and my sister fell preg at same time. it was great, went to scans together, had maternity leave together. if you think its right then go for it. i am expecting my 5th and everyones reaction has been "5! are you mad" but if you're happy then thats all that matters. don't listen to anyone else, just your heart. i can't wait to have this one. although it will be my last. good luck.

Charlie_x · #10 09-20-2009, 05:12 PM

5 is nothing lol i know a very great lady who's on her 7th!! 5 girls 1 boy and hoping for another boy lol