i think i need help

fi-n-jess · #1 07-03-2008, 01:51 PM

ive had a really bad week, our house nearly got reposessed, ive got credit card company after me and the bank isnt helping, my horse is lame, my cats and their kittens have fleas and i think i might be made redundant from my work (still on maternity leave).

for the first time in a year i feel like i want to die.

i had pnd after my first kid was born 19 moths ago. now my second, jess, is 4 months and things are tough, very tough.

my closest friend had moved to cornwall, over 300 miles away and my other close friend has gone all strange on me and i dont feel like i can talk to her anymore.

why does life have to be so crap.

rara · #2 07-04-2008, 08:18 PM

Oh hun, sorry to see you are so down. Why dont you go and chat with your GP. I too a while back thought I was sufferin gwith PND and often a big chat with someone you dont know too well can help a great deal. It cant do any harm to pop along anyway.

Good luck hun

xx

fi-n-jess · #3 07-04-2008, 09:06 PM

thanks hun. im plucking up the courage to go to my health visitor, she was really good after fiona was born. just cant help feeling silly. my gp didnt take me seriously last time, im scared im gonna get the same treatment again.

fi-n-jess · #4 07-11-2008, 09:09 PM

well seen my h.v, shes been great but lower than low now. so much is going on out of my control. cant sleep, feel like i wanna die, havent eaten properlly in days. it must gewt better soon surely?

CoNFuSeD24 · #5 07-11-2008, 09:20 PM

I am sorry to hear you are going thru a bad time.

I think sometimes bad things happen to us for a reason and we can learn from things that happen to us in life. I would speak to your GP and see if they can send you in the right direction of speaking to someone who can help you if your feeling/thinking certin things. I hope everything sorts itself out and and things start going your way.

melanie · #6 07-11-2008, 10:24 PM

oh no! please dont let your self sink any deeper into this condition! ive was severly depressed for about 4 years before i looked for help...i felt a dimwitt going to the doc asking for help,but 2 months into my treatment i started to feel 'normal'.my depression began from a serious problem that i felt couldnt be fixed.but it was.
for a start,i suggest you see your doc ASAP, then here is a link to get started on sorting your house repo problem...maybe you should give them a call?House Repossession | Debt Advice | Payplan here is link for credit card depts,check it out hun...Debt Help & Advice :: Debt Management Company your horse being lame,check this to see if it helps,might,might not?...Horse Lameness flea treatment for your cats,look at this,see does it help? Fleas and flea control for cats and dogs - www.fleafree.co.uk
i think you need to take 1 step at a time...otherwise IT will take YOU over,and im sure you can get through this...have faith!!! start from the begining eh?work your way through it,surely and steadily...you can do it.xxx {let me know how u are getting on}x

fi-n-jess · #7 07-13-2008, 09:01 PM

thanks for the kind words, they help. got health visitor coming again 2moz, gonna try and explain more about how i feel. trouble is my hubby is around and tends to talk over me and say im coping well and everything is ok, but its not, i may look ok and have a good day now and then but deep down i hate myself and feel a failure. wish there was a quick fix.
Jess isnt as happy a baby as fiona was and cant help thinking its my fault. im miserable so its making her like it too. would she read off me like that? she smiles a lot but doesnt giggle and laugh as much as my friends baby who is a month younger

had enough of this now.

on the up side, my horse is now sound again and i rode him yesterday and today! woop woop!!

melanie · #8 07-13-2008, 09:17 PM

well i wouldnt exactly blame yourself for the little one not being as happy as the other,you know every baby is different.you seem to be looking at a lot of things negativly,as if they are your fault...but they are not! i am really glad that you are going to get it sorted,and try to be strong in not letting your hubby speak over you...try to make sure you get your feelings across to the doc,this is most important,because if you dont,he wont be able to help as well as he should. remember,stay strong! also,glad to hear about the horsy!!see, theres good news,more will come.

x

fi-n-jess · #9 07-13-2008, 09:35 PM

yeah guess so. just too impatient, hate the feeling im letting kids down.
thanks for listening xx

stacy_elise · #10 07-14-2008, 01:45 PM

hi jus joined this thread now. i believe your health visitor is any womans best friend when she is feeling down. i too had the problem of my doc making me feel like i was talkin a load of rubbish, which jus made me feel more of a failure. i was given pill after pill and none worked. then i was reffered to a counsellor, it was so much easier to talk bout all my feeelings to some one on the outside that didnt personally KNOW me. and my health visitor is a great listener and points me in all the right directions in where i can get the help and support i need.
and to me this seems as tho thats what you need.
as for your little one being less happy thn another baby does not mean, she is getting the negative feelings from you. she may jus b a more laid bk baby, i had all the same worries it does take work to sort it, a lot of ppl think its a flick of a switch n ure better its not. but without lookin 4 the help 1st u may never get it chuck.
hope you find all the rite help 4 u. x