need advice

[chy]

Im 18 years old, in a very commited relationship and near 5 months pregnant. I have aspergers, general anxiety disorder, ADD and I'm guessing it would be very hard for me to 'grow up' like many have told me I should do so. I've had severe depression problems and I'm really not sure what this pregnancy means to me.
I absolutely love whats inside of me. But my partner is a very smart man and tells me we still need 'our' time. We have looked at the option of putting our baby up for adoption and he's acting like we already decided this for sure. The thought of it kills me though. I know I'm not ready but something else inside is telling me I want to keep it and start a family. Right now all I do is work and I'm hoping that I'm not just bored and I'm thinking a baby would fix it. I need advice, anyone to talk to would be really nice...

[chantellesmummy]

u ave to do what u feal is right chick.

[hayley85]

oh hun. that's what we are all here for. when i found out i was expecting i was 19 and had only been with bf for 3 months. he didn't want kids and i had dreams i wanted to fufill. i had just applied to join the ta army to train to become a nurse. anyway we thought about abortion but i just couldn't my heart and my head was telling me to have the baby. my partner didn't want me to ful stop. but i went ahead anyway and it was the best thing i have ever done.

anyway babe you have to take some serious time out to think about what is right for you and ultimatly what is right for this child. obviously it is to late to consider abortion but i think adoption is something that you have to be a hundred percent sure on. you have still got 4 months to decide but hun i think for what you have said you want this baby! there is lots of help and support out there for you sweetie. so don't be thinking your alone. you will have support of family friends the health visitors are fantastic.

but your mothers instinct will have already kicked in the decision will come to through that. we are always here to talk!

[c.a.cullum]

oh huni... u seem to b in a very hard place rite now!! u really have to do what is rite for u and ur baby!! u need to try and sit ur other half down and seriously talk!!

he cannot make u give the baby up 4adoption if thats not wot u want... u will only regret it!! so u have to make sure u really think and talk this thru!!

mayb if u go to ur gp too and mayb they can refer u 2some1 who u can talk to and who can help u!!

due to ur aspergers and add, also ur anxiety u will need help and support outside the family unit too!! whicheva u decide to do!!

please do something sooner rather than later coz u r going thru a major upheaval in ur life and sooner u talk and get the help u need the better it'l b for u!

wish u all the best hun and remember we'r all here if u need to talk,cry, rant or just let of steam!!

take care!! lots of love! Xxx