baby gone bad!!!!

[maxine090]

hiya everyone, im new on here. im having a problem with my little boy and would really like some advice. my lil boy is 1years and 4months, he was a brilliant baby, hardly cried and was really loving but when he reached 1year and 2months he started to become a lil terror. the thing is he always listens to my partner(his dad) when he tells him of for being naughty, but he never listens to me, he can be really nasty, he pulls my hair,bites me, slaps me and headbutts. he does it to his dad sometimes but im always getting it, im not a bad mum, i tell him of if hes naughty but we never slap him or be nasty, we just tell him what hes done wrong, so i cant understand it. ive got no friends with babies so im really looking for some advice.

also hes going through a stage of going to bed fine but then hes up about 2-3 times a night crying, he stopped taking a dummy and bottle when he reached 1, he just kept refusing it, he drinks cows milk and he eats properly. and nappys, he always takes his nappy of,even when hes messed, i keep being told to potty train him but i get so worried about doing it.

itd really be great to have some good advice.

thnaks maxine
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[pinky29]

hi hun firstly welcome to the site i'm sharon nce to meet you. please don't worry about all of this as it is just a stage they go through you just need to be doing what your doing by telling him what he's doing wrong or maybe using the naughty step etc for time out. as far as the potty training it does sound as if he doesn't want to wear his nappies any more so maybe it's worth just putting the potty in the room & telling him why it's there but don't make a issue of it. if you really are that worried about it call your health vistor or the childrens nurse to take a look at him. good luck hun i'm sure it will be fine sometimes they go through their 2 years stage early x

[stacy_elise]

hi there im stacy.
as pinky said im pretty sure its jus a stage hes going thru, but i can fully understand why ure worried and getting anxious about it i was the same with my daughter.
if her dad told her off she wopuld listen but with me she would jus scream over me or hit me or kick me etc it was os frustrating i jus felt like it was never ending and i ended up getting help from my health visitor because i was worried bout her behaviour. they tell me its normal, it has calmed down but she can still seem like the devil possesed.
as 4 nappies oh dont even start me on that lmao, she used 2 take it off during the night in her bedroom it wud b on the walls in the carpet all over the bed, i was at my wits end, i introduced the potty, she wasnt 2 sure at 1st but she soon clicked what it was 4 and it felt loads better than being dirty, and think she also loved the responsibility n feeling like a big girl.

shes now 3 and half and yeh still ave those days where im like what is wrong with her, but kids all progress differently and go thru stages. but they always come out the other side chick. x

[maxine090]

hiya, thankyou for replying. i was thinking about the naughty step but i wasnt to sure wether or not he would understand it, he is very advanced for his age, he just dosnet understand no. i will definetly try the naughty step and the potty training, he loves to be praised so ill make sure that whenever he is good i will praise him and it might make him understand more. thankyou very much

[pinky29]

what we did with ben was put him on the step get down to his level tell him why he was there & that when he can say sorry he can get off & it worked well but every childs different & i think sometime we forget that we have to grow with our children which can be very testing!

[stacy_elise]

well naughty step certainly didnt work with elise she jus screamed the place down, dont getme wrong i tried and tried and tried, she does it when school put her on time out jus not 4 me, she isnt daft and knows that wen i was suffering badly with pnd she got away with it most of the time, now im in a position where i jus dont bk down its testing, she screams above me, but low and behold this past week she is actually listening to me, coz wen she screams i say to her fine elise you scream coz its not bothering mammy just giving you a sore throat, n she is mortified, soon stops put it that way lol. its a bit like going but out of site of course lmao. x

[maxine090]

riley won't even sit down in his highchair or pushchair for more then 5minites so its going to be really difficult to get him to sit on a naughty step.

hes started to throw himself on the floor when he gets stroppy or if we tell him off he stands laughing at you, so i usually sit him in his small chair in his bedroom and shut the door(his room is next to the lounge) and when hes calmed down i let him out again n hes fine he just sits and play with his toys, is it a good idea to do it this way as i dont think he understands sorry?

i no sometimes it can be my fault because i used to let him get away with things coz i neva liked seeing him cry, but now ive learnt that he uses that against me and i think thats why hes started to hit out. my mum tells me to slap him or bite him back when he does it, which i dont no if thats write or wrong, she says they will eventually understand not to do it. but with all these laws out now, i even get worried if i shout at him to loud. if i didnt have my partner around i really don think i could cope with him.

the thing that does really get me is that he is a lil angel when we are out the house, he talks to everyone, hes happy and he has his odd lil moments but there no biggi, but indoors its a whole different storie.

how old was elise when you started to potty train her?

[stacy_elise]

oh gosh i cant remember lol. think it was sum where around 2 years probably cud of done it earlier but was mainly down 2 laziness and pnd on my part.

i think putting him in his bedroom is probably the worst thing you can do as he will start to associate being naughty with going in his bedroom and playing with toys when hes naughty, i know 2 u it probs seems the best option coz he soon calms down, i know the feeling thats what i used 2 do with elise until my health visitor told me off 4 it. lol
trust me its hard and dont i know it, but u ave 2 b as stubborn as you can, my daughter has had a gud few slaps but she jus laughs at me doesnt bother her, but its different with all kids, as 4 the naughty step only a miute each year of there age, dont push it longer than that so i would say try 1min 30sec.
let me know how u get on, x x

[pinky29]

i agree with stacey the bedroon situation is not a good thing but you do have to do whats the best for you. have you tried using money boxes when each time he is a good boy he gets to put some pennies in a money box then when he is naughty you take it out of the box again letting him see you do it? just a suggetion. i have to say maybe you should speak to your health vistor also to get some more advice just because he's going through a stage doesn't mean your a bad mum when ben went through it i use to cry to mum & dad saying what am i doing wrong etc but it all soon stopped & it does get easier as they get older we also use the 1,2,3 game where if ben is being difficult or wont do as he his told i say " i will give you to 3 to....." & by 2 he's doing what we ask him.

[stacy_elise]

i made a sticker chart, if she was gud she put a sticker on it and if she was naughty she took it off, it has really worked coz she likes the chart. she even puts the stickers she gets from school on there now.

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