Stepdad help!

Hazelnutz · #1 06-23-2008, 10:52 AM

Hi all, my partner and i have been together over 2 years since my divorce now and whilst my youngest and him get on well my daughter still gives him grief, the "you're not my dad" routine. Any ideas on how to get them to bond?

Charlie_x · #2 06-23-2008, 06:46 PM

honestly i wouldnt try to "force" her to bond with him she will get used to it in her own time and perhaps forcing her might make her play up more hun x

Hazelnutz · #3 06-23-2008, 07:42 PM

Never would force her, he goes out of his way to be nice to her and never takes it personally so at least thats something!

Lynne · #4 06-23-2008, 08:01 PM

Yes I agree, I think that they will bond in their own time. I think you should make sure that your partner isn't trying to play "dad". I've got a step dad and the worst thing about him when I was younger was that he was trying to play dad which made me give him the whole "your not my dad routine" like your daughter. Also, make sure your partner isn't trying too hard to win her round. From experience, there is nothing worse than a step dad trying too hard.

Maybe go for days out as a family and eat meals together etc. Get them to be doing things together that are just normal, so they are bonding without feeling like it if that makes sense. Give it time and they will be fine. It took a few years for me and my step dad to be bonded but it happened in the end and will do with your partner and daughter x