any ideas !!!!!!!!!!!!

[clare bear]

hi ya its not that i dont want to be in the relationship any more,its more of i dont know what to do or say anymore. as most of you know yesterday we burried ants dad. well im at a loss as i feel as im walking on egg shells all the time. the past two/three weeks our marriage has been totally crap. honestly i could have ended it there and then.i even thought about ending my own life so i could no longer be hurt anymore. the thing is i just dont fit in with ants family, i dont like them they dot like me,but in the 12 years weve been together ive always tried. but now i want now more to do with any of them. ill never stop ant seeing any of them,and i cant expect ant to choose between me and them as they are his blood, but i dont want to know them at all.ive told ant this and he just sez yea and shakes his head,then goes in to a complete silence with me for hours. so as you can see i dont know what to say, what to do for the best. any one got any ideas. the other thing that has upset me is that all the preperations for ants dads funeral ant was kept out of.which to me is slack of his family.

[c.a.cullum]

oh hun... wot an awful predicament to b in!! im sorry i'v got no ideas but just wanted u 2kno im thinkin of u and i hope things work out soon and for the best!! Xxx

[pinky29]

ok claire you need to sit back & take stock of your own life hun & please don't do anything silly i know first hand how soul destroying it can be for the peole around you when a person they love does something so stupid! at the moment ant prob doesn't know which way to turn give it time hun & tell him how you feel even if it does upset him it's the only way your gonna find out where you stand & how you feel.
if you really beleive that your marraige is over hun maybe you should think about getting away for a bit when things with his dad have calmed down to see how you both feel. you can't feel bad for wanting to be happy & if your relationship is not making you happy only you can do something about it.
good luck hun x

[clare bear]

its not that i feel its over,its just i dont know where to turn or what to say or do for the best. im never gonna go back on word about the in laws they have done it to many times, but hey its always me who has forgiven them. i think now its just time to say no more ive had enough.

[pinky29]

good for you hun you have to be happy but you do need to tell ant how your feeling that way at least it's out in the open & maybe he will understand where your coming from x

[ILoveToCount,Ahh,Ahh!]

I agree with Pinky. Maybe it would do you good to have a little weekend away or something, just to let the air clear a bit.

I'm so sorry to hear about Ant's dad chick xx that must be heartbreaking for him

[clare bear]

well ladies things are looking up (i think). we sat down and i told ant straight,i want no more to do with any of the family as all they do is treat me like mud. and no way are they splitting up our marriage. he seems ok with it.

[pinky29]

thats good to hear hun nothing like putting your cards on the table to see where everyone stands!!

[emmal20]

im sorry to hear about ants dad i think ant shud get sum anti depressants n about the family thing it happens with most ppl its because they over protect like my hubb not to happy wiv the fam i just put up wiv it

[rara]

From the little I know of you and Ant, you have a strong relationship and have gone through a hell of a lot over the years and survived. You have just had the awful ordeal of Ants father dying and emotions are running riot again. You will get through it babe. Im glad you sat and talked to him, it helps clear the air a bit! Keep your chin up hun. xxx