Do I just move on now and believe him?

[mystery23]

Hi

My dp and I been having bad problems. It all because last week we were discussing moving and he wanted to move where my dad lives. I said no and everything all kicked up.

He started acting so suspicious and I started thinking he is more and more on his phone chatting to his female friends is there something going on. I just thought he acting really distant. My bf is not the affectionate type anyway but felt he being far too distant.

Then me being stupid while he went out the bedroom I checked his phone for messages. I saw a message from a female friend of his saying "if we were together before or something". Now thinking about it now I probably got the wrong end of the stick. I just got up when he came in the room and went downstairs and just got drunk. I did pay for it after but his explaination was his friend was having problems and he was helping her.

Then for some reason today I decided to check his facebook, myspace and guess what? He had been saying to a guy online "I wish I had a girl like you". I feel so angry after reading all these messages and wanted to leave him. I was so upset he says now he was having fun. I thought maybe I have overrected as these girls are across the country etc. I just feel like rubbish though still.

I did start to laugh at some of the messages he sent but said I didn't think you would that stuff like that. He said well I am with you not them just having fun really nothing more. Internet flirting I guess but its still makes me feel like I am unsexy.

Very long story but I do think it because of what happened when we got together. He had just finished with his ex but he remained friends with her. I stupidly checked his phone then thinking he was acting funny and found a text saying he still loved her. I just think if he did why did he get with me. He got alot of female whom i was abit funny about then I met some of them and they are okay. Two of them I have not met. Which is the one who sent him that "text if we were together". I do think he fancies some of his female friends sometimes he spends alot of time on da phone to them etc.

I get funny also because when I go to talk to him he don't want me too but as soon as they ring he starts talking about certain things. Its only recently he opened up about how work has been stressing him out.

What do I do? Just try and forgot this and move and believe he loves me and just stop being paranoid?

[CoNFuSeD24]

Ermm this is a tricky one. If it was me Id be worrying as well. Nothing wrong with a man having female friends and men will look at other women... even if they say they dont they do. But just coz they look doesnt mean they gonna go off with them but then again he might. So who knows. As for internet flirting well people do meet up etc etc but he could just having a laugh. If he is talking more to these "female friends" and not as much to you then say something as to why he doesnt like speaking to you about things. I think you should speak to him and tell him how you feel and how his actions make you feel. Things out in the open and honesty might help and if he doesnt take ya feelings and what you have said seriously then he aint worth it and ya can do better.

[happyhappylady]

I would hate that and it would make me feel totally crap. Having left an abusive relationship last year where my ex made me feel crap all the time, I would not allow it again. if i was constantly checking his messages I would not be able to trust him, and where there's no trust, there's no hope for a good relationship so I would split. But it's a really hard one - think you should go with your gut instincts.

[lily3108]

I wouldn't trust him 1 bit hunny, he sounds asthough he has more time for other people than you and it's worse to be honest that those people are women, walk away with your head high and go and do alot better than him ***

[Charlie_x]

like everyone else has said hun its out of order what hes doing and he obviously cant see that its all hurting you!