It finally happened.

[SoldierWife90]

Hey ladies.

Sorry i haven't been around in a few days, ive had so much going on these past few days and i haven't exactly felt up to talking or being around the internet.

Well, its finally happened i knew the end was inevitable (sp). Chris (my husband) has gone to stay with his mum for a few days, he came home from work today and just said he needed space to think and clear his head so he's gone to stay with his mum for the weekend.

I admit we've been distant for a while since the house row about cleaning up and him making a mess, i haven't exactly been up to being intimate as ive started feeling sick again and im usually just too tired to function and fall asleep and he doesn't like that, ive told him countless times that i just dont feel like it and he's accused me of cheating on him, but with who?..I hardly see any of my lad mates since i got married, they all knew i was marrying chris, they we're even at the wedding and saw how happy we we're..Why would they want to interfere?..But accusing me of cheating is another thing.

So now, i feel really alone with no one in the house but the dog and me and Declan (in my belly)

I really do hope we can work this out, we've had rows before we we're married and we always managed to work around them and be more in love than ever, but whats happened to us thesedays?..He always seemed so happy with me and we hated being parted from each other, like when he was in the army, he'd write me all the time and tell me how much he missed me and how much he looked forward to marrying me when he got back..And now look at us, apart and im 25 weeks with his little one..

I dont want a divorce, i just want him back and for us to be a family with Declan when he comes..I just dont see what ive done wrong to deserve this at all

My mothers coming around tomorrow to take me shopping for more baby things, but that just makes me feel worse as ive got a part of chris growing inside me..Arghh whats wrong with me!!

Sorry, im rambling..I just feel emotionally exausted so im going to try and get some sleep, but i doubt i will tonight

Thanks for listening ladies.

[CoNFuSeD24]

Awww hun I'm so sorry to hear. Maybe the weekend apart will make him relise just how much he love's you and need's you. Maybe his worried about being a good father and providing for his growing family... who know's really. As for the cheating hun he had no right to say that to you. If Lee said that to me I would leave him as that would mean he has no trust in me so what would be the point in staying with someone who doesnt trust me? But that's just me and what I do would which doesnt mean it's what you should do or that I am right... if you know what I mean. Finger's crossed you can both work thru this and be happy together. ***

[claribel]

It is hard. Your whole life changes because of this little baby, even before it arrives. He might be anxious about it, you never know. He's said he just needs a few days to have a breather, he doesn't want to break up with you. At least you know where he is.

I'm sure you'll make up with him in due course but the pregnancy and arrival of a new baby is just as emotional, hard, surreal whatever for the father as it is for the mother.

As for the cheating thing, I got this a lot and you just have to let it go over your head. His head will be all over the place at the mo (hense the breather) and will just be throwing anything at you. Honestly, I think if he thought you were actually cheating he'd have packed his things and went. Since you haven't cheated, you have nothing to worry about!

[HSlater]

another this is hun he may be seeing you slightly differently, you are no longer just his gf, fiancee or wife you are now the mother of his child so will he will be seeing you differently and some men need to get their head around that... its no excuse i know but hopefully he will see this weekend how much you and declan mean to him! xx

[CoNFuSeD24]

Originally Posted by HSlater

another this is hun he may be seeing you slightly differently, you are no longer just his gf, fiancee or wife you are now the mother of his child so will he will be seeing you differently and some men need to get their head around that... its no excuse i know but hopefully he will see this weekend how much you and declan mean to him! xx

Ohh that is so true. I never looked at it that way...

[sandra]

Everyone else pretty much said it all. Im sure he still loves you and this weekend will make him realise it. I paniced when i found out when i was pregnant with my oldest, it hit me when i was 6 month, i was like OMG! lol. And men are no different, which im guessing is ur husbands case. Let him have his breather, and have a good chat when he gets back. im pretty sure he doesnt want a divorce either x x

[Charlie_x]

others have said it all hun, but i think you need a big heart to heart with him and another thing about the sex is whats he expect when you have a baby growing in your belly moving etc sometimes that was just enough to put me off and then theres the times when i couldnt even open my legs or even get comfy so if he doesnt like not hving sex it just gets worse the further along you get!

[SoldierWife90]

Thank you ladies =)..Thats made me feel much better. His mother called earlier saying he's gonna be coming back on Sunday, so im gonna try and talk to him about it ..=D xx

[Charlie_x]

awh thats good hun! hope you get things sorted! ***

[Leahsophiesmum]

The ladies have pretty much said everything i hope that u get things sorted hunni x