im not too sure how i feel anymore

[sassysan]

i do sincerely love my boyfriend john, i really do. but sometimes he drives me to the brink of despair.

i think its mostly whats going on in my head. i think it resentment because he has mates to go out with and i dont, and its always me thats home with the baby. i dont mind this at all, and obviously john cant stay with me all the time. and he does take me out when we have a sitter

(im not really making much sense am i?)
it feels as though life is passing me by


i think just by reading this back that its not my relationship with john thats making me feel down, but because i have no friends. although i will appreciate any advice given

[pinkydinkydo]

hey chick your sounding as if your having one of them moments..we all get like it i have moved away from the place i grew up in & alot of my friends still live there but they don't make the effort to come see me & someetimes we all sit there thinking god if only i was single or i didn't have my little one!!!!!
it's hard being a mum at the best of times let alone feeling lonely!!! have you tried going to parent & toddler groups to meet mums if your anything like me you don't like doing that sort of thing!!! just remember sweet no matter how lonely you are feeling there's always someone out there worse off than you & anyway chick you have found us now!!! who needs men& friends when you have us now!!!! hope you feel better soon hun take care!!!! & chin up!!! it will soon pass....

[sassysan]

thanks for that!

[shell]

I think the major problem is what i call mum syndrome. I often feel like this :smile: I'm sure evrything will work itself out, you don't realise how stressed you can be having kids especially if you feeling a bit down or lonely. It could be worse you could be one of us loud ones on here who has no sanity left!!! Kepp your chin up hun & all will be fine we are alwys here to listen, or should that be read? & have a chat

[Debbielou]

I agree there, I think once you have children it's something you experience once in a while. I have days I feel like that, I think it's because you lose your independance and your partner doesn't really. It doesn't change for them like it does for us.

[c.a.cullum]

i have felt like that many times!!!! and its probably the worse thing to feel!! not only do u have to deal with the lonely and down feeling u also have to deal with the guilt of feeling like that.... coz u do love ur man and u do love ur children.. its just u need some me time and dont seem to b getting any!!! u need to get urself bak out there... get urself involved in mum and toddler groups, or swimming.... even baby signing classes.. depends on little ones age!!! once u get out there again u wil begin to enjoy ur days... i was terrible wit being stuck indoors... just used to sit in on my own.. then i thought that i just was driving myself crazy.... and its amazing how many mummies around u feels exactly the same!!!!

[sarahfeb10]

I am moving from my local area next week and I have been worrying about not meeting any friends, in the last year or so I seem to have made a lot of new friends and now I am moving and will have to start again I have been looking up some parent and toddler groups so that I can make an effort and get myself out there :smile:
Im sure if you get yourself out to a few mum and baby clubs you will meet lots of people and you will have no spare time left cos of all your new friends xx

Cheer up babe and dont forget were always at the other side of the computor xx

[sassysan]

thank u all for all the lovely comments! i have took everyones advice and got me and ashley into a mum and toddler group

[clare bear]

hun believe me i know how u feel nearly all my mates have kids so i dont really have much to do with them now. some days i sit and think about my life and i always end up thinkin about my relationship, and what id be doing now if i was on my own,(not that i want to b). now youv'e found us come on to chat you will soon feel a whole lot better.

[sarahfeb10]

Glad to hear youve found a mothers and toddler group You will soon see the benefits, you meeting new friends and your little one mixing with other kids :smile: