Life is to comfotable??!!

[madisonmitzi]

I met my partner in Sept 06. Moved in a couple of months later and things where great. He has split from his ex-wife a few months before, and she had his 2 kids and a new partner. So all was good, u'd think. Anyways, a few months after moving in (honeymoon period) she phones my OH and tells him her OH has been arrested and she found out he was a peadofile (sp) The ex-wifes partner was jailed and had to sign a sex offenders register. He was living with my ex's kids for a year before anyone found out....
So after 9 months of all the shit, they finally came to live with us. My life felt like it went down the pan tbh. I was 19, with 3 kids at home and only one of them was mine. I never wanted kids (found out was pregnant with Maddy at 5months) and then when I had her, I didn't want any more. His 2 kids are a handful. The youngest is 3 and the nursery he goes to had to cut down the time he went to school because he would distroy the playroom and hit other kids. He even stabbed a little girl in the arm and she had to have 10 stitches!!! :O
I didn't get along with them as soon as I met them, and to be pefectly honest I didn't really want them in my life. I had a great life, friends family and Maddy. And of corse my OH.
Since the time we found out about the bloke being a peadofile, I haven't heard anything else. My OH is obsessed with the whole situation. We even lay in bed about to have sex, and he is talking about them. I hate it so much. In the past 6 months, I can probably count on one hand the amount of times we have got 'intimate'. Sad eh. And I'm only 20.
I feel like saying to him 'Me or the kids' but I know its wrong to put him in that situation, so I'm leaving him.
I'm moving to my mums in Australia, and me and Maddy are going to start a new life. It's a shame because he is The One, I know it. Just cant accept his kids.
Am I mad to not being able to accept them? Is it wrong? Has anyone else been through this?
It must be horrible for him to have his girlfriend not wanting his children. I'd hate him to be like that towards my child.
I know I've gone on. I'll stop now

[melanie]

this does sound a bit of a hard situation,why are your partner and his ex wife not sharing the kids?why have you guys got them all the time?if u ask me,his ex wife should take them for at least half of the week too,i mean,i know she must have got a shock when she found out about her man but she still has a responsibility to look after her kids too.would u stay with your partner if the kids were only there half the time?if so ,u should talk to him and tell him that this is what u want.x

[madisonmitzi]

Hey the kids live with us full time because the ex-wife is STILL with the peadofile. She loves him. So she handed the kids over to us. She doesn't want them back at all. So she can't have the kids half the week. Yes I would stay with him, but its not the case. Never heard of a mother choosing a peadofile over her 2 children. Now everyone has lol. And to make matters worse, the peadofile actually raped another girl while they were together. And she still stuck by him. They live on a street that houses families. Some new next door neighbours just moved in with children and have no idea they are living next to a convicted peadofile.
Makes me sick!!!!!!

[melanie]

oh my god!!that is nuts!what is the woman thinking?!well in that case then i would say to you,if you cant stick living like that then maybe you should splitt then.as u say,u are only 20.maybe u are to young for all this.are you able to stay with your mum or any family for a couple of weeks or so,so that u can think in peace and try to sort out what you really want.

[madisonmitzi]

yer im going back down to kent in 2 weeks and then im going to go to australia. my mum lives there so just going to make the most out of life. i just get jelous when people (like you lol) have good relationships and i do want one but then my OH cant give it to me. He can go out to work, but wont, he doesn't contribute anything. so f**k it haha

[melanie]

i think u should go for it,really i do. and hey!my relationship is far from perfect!honestly!lol

[madisonmitzi]

its just taking that first step eh lol feel like ive wasted 2 years of my life. maddy will love traveling. she is obsessed with planes so that wud keep her quiet for the 24 hour flight :O thats the worse. i just think its down to being so comfortable in this place, this situation it becomes the norm dont it? it wud feel strange being on my own. Even tho i love it when he is out and dont come back. i love being on my own

[pinky29]

hi hun i just read this & i'm in total disblief that a mother would choose a pedoplhle of their own children! anywa whatever you decide bite the bullet whilst your young enough to get back out there & make a life for yourself & have some fun. good luck sweet & make sure the desions you make are for yourself & your little one x

[melanie]

well i think you can be strong enough to do this,and once you have got used to not having him around you will prob wish u did it sooner.u will find a new man in time,i really hope it works out for you in the end hun.xxx

[madisonmitzi]

It feels like a bloody story book lol. Sometimes I dont think it is real, because these are things you only read about. I just feel sorry for that unknowing family that live next door and around them. Not long now and I'll be gone lol.
Thanks Mel You been great.