Mckenzie's father.

Mckenziesmum · #1 04-30-2007, 06:39 PM

Just recently theres been alot of tension between us, The other day i was talking to my friend when she said he was sitting right next to her, when clearly he should of come to spend some time with me and Mckenzie, since he promised me a few days before. I was gobsmacked and then when he came home i comfronted him and asked what he was playing at and asked him what he was doing at my mates...And the whole thing slipped out, apparently the two of them are having a fling behind my back...And apparently he loves her, I told him that he was irresposable for doing that and that if he doesn't buck his idea's up he's history.

Of course now, i'm debating wether to chuck him or not, Of course if i do chuck him he'll want to see Mckenzie...With him being his dad...I'm in a bit of a pickle here...

Does anyone have any advice

Love

Hayley && Mckenzie*----x

pinkydinkydo · #2 04-30-2007, 07:16 PM

god hun sorry to hear this well if it were me there would be no 2nd chances but thats just me. if you feel that the relationship should or could work then talk to him tell him how your feeling & excactly what you want from him.as for your friend i would seriously consider forgetting about her as she's not much of a friend to do that to you i'm supprised you haven't lumped her one i would have done. whatever you do hun it has to be your desion but it's also got to work both ways!! but don't stay in a relationship that your not gonna be happy in as it will be no good for you or your little one so think carefully & do what you feel is best after all you have a responsibility to your little one now & you have to do whats best for the both of you! good luck sweet whatever you decide we are all here for you take care lots of pinky loves coming your way!

rileysmam · #3 04-30-2007, 07:38 PM

awww chick im sorry they have done that too you but to be honest if he says he loves her then theres no point him being with you, you deserve more than that and to be loved by some1 that truly loves u hun cos if he did he wouldnt have done that to you especially with your friend which is what she clearly isnt, he can still c his daddy if your not together and it wil always hang ova your relashionship to be honest but only you know whats best for you and mackenzie i hope whatever you decide to do youlle be happy x

clare bear · #4 04-30-2007, 09:03 PM

soz to hear about that hun, if i was in that position hed have been gone when he told me but thats me. and your mate well id tell her shes welcome to him. you dont need mates like that. good luck in wot ever you decided to do hun but your too good to be cheated on.

rara · #5 04-30-2007, 10:34 PM

Im so sorry to hear your news. Its an awkward situation. If it was me he'd be out the door, lifes too short to try and hold on to something that may have already slipped away. Concerntrate on you and your child, they need you now more than ever. Oh god Im crap at advice, Ive had so many dodgy relationships in the past Im probably not the best person for this. All I can say is if you need to chat or get it all off your chest..............give me a shout! xx

sassysan · #6 05-01-2007, 11:14 AM

im sorry to hear about your man troubles. i would personally end the relationship and tell him to be a good father to your son. but thats just me. hope u find some happiness!

c.a.cullum · #7 05-01-2007, 01:18 PM

oh god... im so sorry hun... wot a horrible thing to have to deal with.... i cant believe he's done that to u and mckensie!!! personally it'd b ova for me but if u still love him and feel there is a chance then stick at it... but i think he has showed u how he feels!! and as for ur friend she is a silly little tart that is not worth the air she breaths.....

woteva u decide make sure it is wot is best for u... dont stay with him for the sake of mckensie as it'l only do him harm in the future.... u have to do wot u want... even if u split he can still spend days wit his son!!

im sorry ur having to go thru this and we r all here wen u need to chat!! take care hun!!

Debbielou · #8 05-01-2007, 01:35 PM

I'm sorry to hear that. But for me there'd be no second chances, he's a father now and should be responsible to you and his son, but it doesn't sound like he's willing to do that! It could just be he's having a hard time adjusting to the fact he's now afather, but thats no excuse! I f he says he loves her though and does stay with you, you don't know that he's not gonna do it again! If he does love her, he will eventually go back to her. And I wouldn't call her a freind, a friend should never do that to you.

#9 05-01-2007, 03:17 PM

OMG I am so sorry for you and McKenzie! I am inclined to agree with the rest of the girls and tell him to sling his hook, and as for your so called friend, she can stick it too. But, only you know how you feel and if you think the relationship could ever work again. I think once the trust is broken, it NEVER returns and anybody who says it does is a liar. It will always play in the back of your mind, even if you're together for 20 years, you'll never forget. Good luck hun, hear if you need me xxx

ruth · #10 05-01-2007, 06:08 PM

what a dick and that so called friend needs a slap,i kind of no what youre going through,mine and ste relasionship was always on and off up intill two yr before we got married,i have forgiven him but not forgotten about everything that happened and trust him 100%,if he hadent of said he loved this other lass personally i would of said give it another go wit rules,as he has said it i wouldnt go there coz you and mckenzie are the only ones who will get hurt, youre worth more than that,keep ur chin up lass