omg

[shirlrshalley ma]

I am going back a lot of years now,a time when if you called the police on a battered wife there was nothing they could do,it was left to the woman to take out a summons against the man,can you imagine doing that with a violent partner,no shelters the woman had to stay in the home, with the partner still there,so the summons would be dropped by the woman,and the violence would start all over again.My father was violent to my mother,my sister tells me that as a small baby my mum picked me up thinking it would stop him hitting her,it didnt. As a small child i saw my mother chased around the room trying to get away from my father as he punched her in the stomach,in the face and around the head.I saw my mum with black eyes,and red eyes with the broken blood vessals.Every damn time he came home from the pub.Does it affect the children,you bet it bloody well does,I would lay in bed shaking from head to toe,crying,wetting the bed.My mum got lucky though because she took out a summons and it made my dad beg her to drop it,she did but it made her stronger,he was never able to hit her again,and they stayed together 55 years untill they passed away.These women love the man and think that love will stop him,it wont.They are bullys,and they like doing it,they will never change,anyone who suffers this abuse,call the police,get the bugger arrested,watch him cry and say sorry,or even threaten you.but have the guts to do some thing,if you dont respect yourself enough to do it,be a good mother and do it for your kids,if you dont you are as bad as he is.

[pinkydinkydo]

so sorry to hear you & your sister & your mum had to go through such a horrific ordel it must have been very hard for you to see them still together after all that abuse? thanks for sharing what must be a hard subject for you.

[shirlrshalley ma]

No its no longer hard for me,it made my mum a strong hard woman,that in turn made me the same.just trying to make these woman who do sod all aware of what they are doing to the kids.They in turn will be either the abuser or the abused.They might get lucky get a good man,because they know what to look for,but they will find it hard to trust,they will feel love but it will be difficult to show,that is what it did to me,cause I have been married 41 years and in that time I could say I most likely have told my hubby about 11-12 times that I love him,may be less, bad that dont you think,but he knows every thing,though I dont think he fully understands.So you women do some thing for your kids sake,dont sit and say 'I cant leave him I love him'or ' he dont mean it he loves me'.Oh and the other one is 'he was so sorry he even cried'.Rubbish I have no pity for you or your weakness,but what choice do your kids have.

[pinkydinkydo]

i agree with you there hun i don't understand why either & i hate it when they say oh i'm stayiny for the sake of the kids well no not really thats just an excuse as its your kids who will get hurt in the long run

[jackie]

aww bless him they pick thing up tho even at that age xxxxxx

[trex123100]

I think you need to reserch more before saying some things I used to work in a shelter in london its not just a case of walking away these men were not like this when they got together they were giving the women every thing they could wish for and bit by bit taking them apart without them knowing it. with the I love you please dont see your friends to start with untill they have notting left only him because he is constantly in their heads untill they have no confindence and no self worth left and they are ashamed but when you see these women you wouldnot think it its all the rubbish the men have put in there heads saying there friends are jealous because they want them to have none and hope the fall out then they take over every time its the same why should women have to leave the home the man should be made go if you seen were they had to stay and bring there child to im sorry to go off but it get me mad they are bullies

[jayk84]

My ex boyfriend was very aggressive. To start with it was just verbal aggression, stopping me seeing any male friends, then moved onto the female, until it had got to the point where him and 2 friends of his that were always at the house. Then he got to the stage where he would push me against walls etc. Then one day he took things further and hit me. i called the police and he grabbed the phone off me, luckily it didn't hang up so the operator heard everything. He punched me and kicked me all over and threw an ashtray in my face which split my lip. All i can say is how good it felt when the police turned up. I didn't even need to go to court, but the B*****D only got 100 hours community service and a fine of which i got £100. Don't know how that happened!! But i have now found a great man, i'm very lucky!

[emmabeatit]

I hate men who hit women if my man hit me i would chuck him out and change the locks Then i would get on with my life and i would also call the police if he came round again. I would also bag all his clothes up and throw them out the window. But i am lucky my husband is as daft as a brush wouldny hurt a fly the other day he brought me a lovely bunch of red roses and a box of choccies for nothing so ina sense i am lucky but i dont tolerate abusive men or men who batter women
thats what men wh batter women are

[emmabeatit]

I hate men who hit women if my man hit me i would chuck him out and change the locks Then i would get on with my life and i would also call the police if he came round again. I would also bag all his clothes up and throw them out the window. But i am lucky my husband is as daft as a brush wouldny hurt a fly the other day he brought me a lovely bunch of red roses and a box of choccies for nothing so ina sense i am lucky but i dont tolerate abusive men or men who batter women
thats what men wh batter women are

[ThatGirl]

poor child