omg

[c.a.cullum]

ok.... at the weekend i had a friends little boy in my house..... i dropped a pint of milk on the floor and he said to me...'dont tell james will ya!?' and i asked him why.. and he said 'coz he'l hit u wont he!?' omg.... i nearly died... bless his little heart... he's only 3 and i kno that his dad hits his mum in front of him but now im thinking that mayb he does it more than every1 realises... becoz i kno amy wud neva think to say summit like that!!!! i just said to him.... 'no.of course he wont hit me... he'l just laugh and call me a silly billy!' that poor little boy.. and his lil sister too!!! and wot makes it worse is there is nothing any of us can do!!!!

[clare bear]

id have cried if it was me. how can a man call himself a man when he hits his partner infront of the kids.a man is no man if he hits a woman anyway. i know some times i get on ants nerves but he would never hit me. its been the other way round but he still never hit me back. poor kids, i wouldn't have know wot to say or where to putmyself, did u say anythink to his mum?

[c.a.cullum]

god no!!!! i wudnt kno wot to say!!! i think i'l prob talk to her mum tho!!! good friends wit her mum!! it was awful.... he has said similar things b4 but not like that!!! i cudnt believe it coz even tho its awful he hits her.. i thought it was only during their arguments but now i think it may be more!!! and not being funny i dont really feel sorry for her anymore.... its the kids i worry about.... they r so lovely and i love them so much but i cant get involved!!! its such a difficult situation!! i just wish he'd pee off and let them all have a better life without him!!!!

[pinkydinkydo]

thats so sad my brother threw his wife down the stairs once infront of his son!! both my niece & nephew have wittnessed alot & im convinced if they hadn't they wouldn't be like they are now with their behaviour!!

[c.a.cullum]

it definitely does affect the childrens behaviour... the little boy in question can be really violent and does swear alot... its coz he knows no other way of venting his frustration... he is a lot better since starting nursery tho!! amy once didnt want to talk to him so he said that he was gonna hit her... i really have to keep my eyes on him wen they r all playing 2geva... but deep down he is a lovely little boy!!! :smile:

[clare bear]

ive nevere been through it myself but y dont the woman in question just walk away, if she wanted to leave to get away from the beatings she would, i cant c y women put themselves through it .

[c.a.cullum]

she doesnt want to leave him!!!! her mum asked me wot wud i do if james treated me like that.... and i said he'd neva get the chance coz i wudnt be there!!!! i dont understand it.. but then her mum was in violent relationships.. so she has grown up with it... and as u can imagine.. her mum hates seein her daughter go thru the same things she went thru!!! and her grandchildren too!!!

[sarahfeb10]

My cousin saw it all when she was younger too, her mums boyfriend was a nasty piece of work, but her mum wasnt much better and in the end she and her bro and sis got took into care. My mum fostered the eldest Melissa and tried to teach her right from wrong luckily she must have been listening at some point cos her boyfriend hit her last month and she got rid straight away, I was so proud of her!!

[c.a.cullum]

oh that is so good!!! and how wonderful of ur mum to foster her!! glad things have turned out well!! :smile:

This is such a difficult subject - I hate it!
Charley - how you ever found the strength to give those children back I'll never know! I think I would've hidden them away and kept them! Just be careful for your own family as things can escalate massively in situations like yours - even though everyone else will see you are only trying to help - she and possibly her family might not. Good luck hun, fingers crossed xxx.