Think our relationship is over

mollyrose · #1 05-23-2008, 08:19 PM

Hi i have been with my husband for 7 seven and married 2 years. We have a baby daugther who is 9 months ever since the birth of my daugther things have gone done hill badly, it is not a violent relationship we just argue all the time. I have never felt this lonely before he seems to come home from work and not want to talk just go to bed or watch tv.
Our sex life is none exsitiot since i gave birth and i am sure it is due to be still not losing my baby belly. I really dont know wat to do next

melanie · #2 05-23-2008, 08:37 PM

sounds a bit ruff for u alright,i doubt things could take such a turn because of your baby belly though,have u guys tried to talk about it to see whats gone wrong?is she your first child?if so he could be finding it hard to adjust to the new baby,which if so u need to tell him to grow up a bit.try asking him what has changed everything so much. x

mollyrose · #3 05-23-2008, 08:56 PM

He is a fantastic dad to our daugther, but to me it is as if i ant here no more. He lies all the time and i caught him looking at porn on the internet which reall upset me. I ahve tried talking to him but he just goes silent and nothing changes

happyhappylady · #4 05-23-2008, 10:10 PM

finding my husband looking at porn was the last straw for me and i left - tho it was an abusive relationship. i've never looked back. criticising you, making you feel inadequate and depriving you of affection is classed as domestic abuse, and you are probably feeling really down about yourself with little confidence.
ask him outright if he wants to continue the relationship and how he feels about you. If he still loves you, it may be worth trying Relate or some therapy. if not, discuss how to end the relationship.
yr baby belly shouldn't make a difference - you're still the woman he married!

Alison · #5 05-24-2008, 08:30 AM

talk it through with him tell him you cant cope with him being so cold towards you if he tels you to shut up then leave him because he will realise when he looses you he lost something good and if he loves you that much he will run after you

Charlie_x · #6 05-24-2008, 10:25 AM

im sorry to hear that hun x