wot to do if he reads this he will go mad

[Xxkiss06xX]

i been with my oh for nearly 2 years it was all fine to begin with then i got pregnant supposidly he has a child with his ex and she makes my life hell here whole family does her brother nearly hit me when i was pregnant because he went for my oh and i was in the way then she started saying she was going to harm my lo when he was born and its getting worse everytime i see that family one of them threatens my little boy which he has done nothing to anyone he only 7 months old ive told that family im not scared of them but because of this me and my oh row i had to have him arrested in feburary because every weekend he gets pissed he says he is having a couple so i let him go then he comes home pissed anyway
and when he comes back with alcohol in him he gets quite aggressive i tell him to leave he says make me but this one time he got violent not the 1st but it was never as bad as this he threw me round the flat bit my face smashed doors into me smacked my head off the fridge strangled me then picked my little boy up who was sleepin took him outside with only his babygrow on he was only in his boxers and tried to snatch him the police came and arrested him but he was getting lary to the policewhen he got out he came back cried told me how sorry he was promised he will change went to court was charged and given 2 years probation and must attend a domestic violence course said he would prove to me he would change so i took him back
over the past 4 weeks he has given me £50 each week towards paying for my little boy and food and that but this is a first in the 7 months my little boy has been here we are always rowing he so controlling im losing all my friends because of him im moving in a couple of weeks to the same town my family and friends live in but im at the end my tether i love him so much but i just dont know what to do anymore i have bought everything for my new flat he hasnt bought anything some help would be apreciated please

[ruth]

it must be so hard going through that by yourself,my ex was very violent so i can understand what youre going through,i would leave him tell youre family what is happenin at leaast you will have them to talk to,you have to think of youre baby he needs you to be strong,am always here if you need to talk like everyone else

[Xxkiss06xX]

my family are pressuring me to leave him but dont understand how much im still in love with him my dad was v violent to me and my mum when i was a baby and all she does is compare him to my dad the thing is he is a bloody good dad to our little boy and when u watch them together u can see the look of love in our little boys eyes but he says everthing is my fault and if i leave him he will say things to get my little boy taken away why does he not do these things to his ex why is it me

[c.a.cullum]

oh huni!! wot a thing to have to go thru!! i'v never been thru it but all i'd say is think of ur little one!! its not rite that u r scared of ur partner!! u obviously stil love him but he wil not change while u r still with him!! he needs to get better... and i bet he is a gr8 dad but wen he sees red he becomes a different person.. and even if he doesnt harm ur little boy physically... it will affect him mentally!!! its amazing how young they actually pick up on things!!
it will b better for all of u if u break up and if he loves u he wil get better!!! so sorry u r going thru this and i really hope it al works out for the best!!! these things r always easier said then done!! if u need to chat then u kno where we are!!! take care!! ***

[ruth]

it prob is wrong of your mum to compare your dad to your partener,she has gone through it and only has the best intentions for you and prob doesnt want history to repeat its self.This is never ever your fault!!!!a man has no right to put his hands on a woman in a voilent situation,course your still gona love him, i still loved my ex when i left him and it is the hardest thing to do.If he really loves you he should let go weather its for good or short term but he needs to get help if he wants you and him to be together and be a family,am always here if you want to talk,x

[mich0809]

Originally Posted by Xxkiss06xX

my family are pressuring me to leave him but dont understand how much im still in love with him my dad was v violent to me and my mum when i was a baby and all she does is compare him to my dad the thing is he is a bloody good dad to our little boy and when u watch them together u can see the look of love in our little boys eyes but he says everthing is my fault and if i leave him he will say things to get my little boy taken away why does he not do these things to his ex why is it me

Hi there, ive been thru similr to you. I thote my ex would change etc, but he didnt.I was with him 10 years, and since i left, i regret not going sooner and wasting all that time. I love him,and thote i was doing right by the girls,but i wasnt. We have been so much happier since we left.Hope you sort things soon. I understand how hard it is. I grew with violence too

[clare bear]

chic i went through being hit, but there were no kids involved. you say hes a good dad im sorry hun but if he was that good he would not do what he does. all you can do is sit and think what life you and your baby will have if it carries on.

[ILoveToCount,Ahh,Ahh!]

oh my god!

hun, you do not deserve to live like this. and your mums right, you need to get out. what you have to think is (and its not nice at all, i know,) what if he turns on your little one and how would it make you feel knowing that he was violent and that it could have been prevented.

i understand that you love him, but he's behaving like a thug towards you and you need stability and love, not the awful way that he has treated you

I hope that you are ok xx