pleae help

[sharron]

im calling on all mums for some help, i have a 19 week daughter pregnancy and birth were great, the problems is now......

a few weeks ago when putting her to bed she became very crabby (colic i think) and her restlesness turned to screaming, and i mean screaming taking upto 2 hours for me and my husband to calm her down and i think its stemed from there.

now im an impatient person anyway and i thought becoming a mummy would help with that, but it hasn't. infact its made me worse.

the times ive had to deal with (the screaming) are over shadowing the good times i have with her, i seem to live in fear of her crying all the time, its making me extremely anxious and nervous and i feel scared of her. any slight mummer from her and my body tenses up, scared of her crying for hours again and making me think i don't want this anymore.

i cry myself alot thinking im not coping, my husband says i need to see the doc. why do i feel this way? i have a gorgeous daughter which i have so longed for. i knew it would all be hard but i didn't think this hard. ive asked myself if i think i have PND, maybe i have!! i would just love to wake up on a morning and completely enjoy being a mum with confidence instead of being on auto-pilot, and simply "just getting through a day".

its making me sad, please help ***************xx

[kez71]

hiya sharron, 1st of all dont worry ur far from the only one that has felt this way at sum point or another but the gud thing is it doesnt last!!! i wud say go and see ur doc jst 2 put ur mind at rest try lavender oil in ur bath this helps relax u and u wont feel so wound up which in turn wont make u as scared of ur daughters crying. ive been there and its an awful feeling hun try ur baby with infacol it eases colic hun. i found it worked for my daughter or speak to ur health vistor and get sum feed bk dnt b scared to admit its very hard when u feel ike this thats why they r there hun hope ive been of sum help xx

[HSlater]

i agree with what kez has said, go and see your doctor or if you feel more comfortable with your health visitor speak to her... you arent the first and certainly wont be the last so dont feel uneasy about it, the docs and health visitors have seen many people like you once you see them and ease your worries im sure that you will feel more comfortable with your daughter xx

[sandra]

like the 2 have said i wud see ur doc. they arent there to judge they are there to help. i totally agree with infacol, it was a god send when i had my ashley. also try some gripe water, that helps with colic too x x

[sharron]

thanks everyone. i didn't expect much feedback. i hoped the colic would of eased of by now though, ive tryed with baby cereals and maybe im giving her too much for her stomache to digest and that may cause discomfort to her. think i will speak to my HV, like you said, shes there for a reason and thats to help. thanks again people xx

[stacy_elise]

think every1 has pretty much sed what i would sayhun, we are hear to support you whenever you need it, so dont hestitate ask us.

ive suffred from pnd myself and maybe u should defo speak to someone about it. it helps amazingly. x

[young_mam]

I'm goin thro something similar myself my daughter is 9 weeks and is really bad with colic, I know how ur feeling, a bit robotic, so t speak, some days will be better then others Also worried that im suffering from pnd too. just b aware that if u use infacol its gota b done at every feed n takes 72hours before it can take effect, this didnt help me n niether has dentinox i'm gettin intouch wiv my health visitor in mornin and would be gald t pass some advice onto you from what he suggests to me, I know that baby massage classes are meant t help im waitin t try that atm xx

[Charlie_x]

not much i can say apart from what the others have said ive always been pretty lucky with alfie x

[rach-233]

wow! u guys r great ur all so supportive x

[kim2]

both of my babies have suffered with colic and nothing worked with them! i took my son to baby massage and that helped alot. they do grow out of it, its just waiting. lol. my daughter is still very colicy and im taking her to baby massage too. hope this helps.