Now a days, this sounds like a hugely old fashioned concept. The only way I can tackle this subject is by expressing my personal opinions. Basically…I think that expecting a couple to wait until they get married before they have sex is ridiculous!

Let me set the scene for you ladies; you meet your man, have a beautiful relationship that then goes down the route of marriage, all the while remaining abstinent. The special day arrives; you look fantastic in your dress and of course, drink a little too much whilst watching your Uncle Fred making a complete twonk of himself on the dance floor. Then the exciting time to consummate your marriage arrives only for you to find that ‘Mr Right’ is…umm…how do I put this...constantly “freezing”. Yep, your darling husband is rather petit and you’re stuck with him in a state of dissatisfaction.

Now I’m not deliberately making fun of those gentlemen out there (and I’m sure you’re lovely people) with a teensy todger, I’m sure it must be quite an issue for you and I sympathise. Nor am I throwing abstinence in the gutter, it’s just not what I consider fair or realistic. Lets face it, we all enjoy sex (and if you don’t, then you are with the wrong man) and as far as I’m concerned, the physical side of a relationship is very important. So pre marital sex shouldn’t be looked upon as bad or wrong, in my opinion.

Even if it were to result in children. Wouldn’t you say that having a baby with the person you love is more of a commitment than a mere piece of paper? Both are ways of making a statement that you love each other and are a family forever. Of course we shouldn’t forget that contraception is there for a reason, so if you didn’t want a baby but still wanted sex, then use it – that’s what it’s there for after all. It can be sorted out for free by either your doctor or your local family planning clinic. Easy, convenient and there to be used.

I am pro marriage, I think it’s a beautiful ceremony and a lovely way to show the person you love they mean so much to you that you’re willing to share the rest of your life with them. It’s not the marriage part that I have the problem with – I just don’t feel it’s necessarily a ‘must’ just because you want children or sex. I do understand why some couples feel the need to get married if they have children, and as long as the decision is right for you, then that’s all that matters. It’s the pressure that the older generations apply to those concerned that bugs me.

My answer? TRY BEFORE YOU BUY! That way there are no little ‘surprises’ and you can enjoy the sex life that you are absolutely entitled to. Remember, you shouldn’t feel obliged to answer to anyone and certainly shouldn’t feel pushed into any kind of lifestyle that you don’t want.